If I was asked to do a eulogy, and I forgot to prepare my speech, I would start with, “He died how he lived!” then scan the room. 🔎
I compare the number of faces who look proud versus disappointed. Now, I have everything I need.* Got emmm!
*This is based on a completely rational assumption that, at minimum, I’ve been informed about the cause of death of the person I’m about to eulog-ize.
Two common eulogy approaches Denial–Care or Plan–Care
Combined with passionate playing of the room, I’ll approach the speech with one of two main eulogy styles:
- Denial–Care — “OH, their death was so untimely! But God don’t make no mistakes. And the Word say that JOY come––y’all don’t hear me! Is this thing on🎤?? *tap tap*”
- Plan–Care — “Saints, God has a plan for us all, and when it’s your time, all you can do is answer the call. Let us fellowship and celebration our Brother Leon, who diligently answered Jesus call to come on home. Amen?…Come on and stand on your feet, and I want you to tell somebody you love them. Everyone, right where you are, I want you to join hands. Muh Jeannie, you got something to play us on out? Praise God.” *raises hands with wife and another minister in the pulpit* *Miss Jeannie begins playing Your Gracy and Mercy on organ.*
In short, you meet the audience where they are. When the deceased made the world a better place, talk about their goodness. When the deceased was a bad human being, lean into comforting the family.
Your Grace and Mercy
Because this song gives me joy, here’s a link to listen: